but not broken (luckily!).  At the end of the game Neal had hit the floor hard 6 times, hit his head twice and was red all over.  He had to deal with taunts from the opposing team and their parents. 

There was no help from the ref (he’s a kid, I know, but he took his frustrations out on our players by not protecting them).

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When I got home, I was so upset I was shaking. 

The boys are with Bryan watching our favorite college team play.  They are there without me so I can create a fun project for My Mind’s Eye

However, because I am frustrated, I am not feeling very creative.  I need to vent.  This hobby is therapeutic, right?  I hope you will bear with me.  I’m not exactly sure how to put into words how I am feeling. 

One thing is for sure, I feel proud.  Yes, proud – of Neal – of Bryan (for defending the kids and not swearing) – of our little team who kept working and fighting and never gave up.  Proud that my boy with tears in his eyes dribbled up the court and fought until the game was over.  Proud that our team scored.

Grateful for an uncle who came to his defense and picked him up when as a mother I couldn’t for fear of making him look like a wimp.  Grateful for grandparents who were there to support…

Happy… that when the adults were heckling Neal and Bryan was telling him to ignore them, I yelled to him (I was sitting next to “said” parents): “Yes, Neal, ignore the adults that are picking on a 4th grader”.  And, happy, that they actually stopped after that.

And happy that they scored so that it wasn’t umpteen million to 0.

Basketball at this age is not about winning or losing, it is about teaching the fundamentals of basketball.  It is about teaching these kids how to follow rules.  It is about teaching the kids how to be good sports, win or lose.  6a00d8341df38853ef0133f1182c50970b[1]

And, I am proud that our kids were good sports.

Thank you for listening to me!

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3 responses to “Beaten…”

  1. Renee J. Avatar
    Renee J.

    Oh, Amber, I am sorry that your son hurt; I know it was not fair at all what happened. I glad, though, that he is alright and that you and your family were there for him. He is so lucky to have such a caring Mom; a Mom that instills the best values ever. ‘So proud of you and your family!
    Please take care, Amber….I hope that you get to scrap and have some fun.
    Hugs,
    Renee

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  2. nat urban Avatar
    nat urban

    oh man..I feel your pain. I have been there..done that..infact just yesterday at Spencers game. Adults making catty comments towards our team, making loud noises when our team would go in for a free throw..just frustrating. The mama bear comes out at these games..I am glad that you said what you did, sometimes adults need to shut up!! THey only look like fools acting that way!!

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  3. Sonia Avatar

    I’m sorry for you and your family Amber. Kids start out with all the innocence in the world and I believe all the negativity is taught to them – we’re not born with it. That other parents would heckle someone of that age is disgraceful. As you said kids at this age are there to have fun, to learn to be part of a team and to learn about following rules. It sounds like you all did the best you could in a terrible situation. I hope your son is OK and that he understands that this is definitely the exception and not the rule in behaviour and he goes on to enjoy his Basketball. Hugs to you. Sonia x

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